Saturday, 10 August 2013

I Was A Victim Of Domestic Violence- Chika Ike Speaks On Why Her Marriage Failed


‘ The past three years has been a very emotional period for me. I focused my energy on work and to build back my
self esteem. its been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I’ve been
through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I’ve tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have
come to a resolve that there’s really no right time because every second of the day,lives are being lost due to domestic violence.
I was a victim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.


Growing up as a girl. I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage I didn’t understand it because I am not the type of woman a
man beats but I guess there are no types. It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing
his emotions,after every beating he pleads , cries and says it won’t happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him. Over the years when it kept happening consistently I started looking for other
definitions for it. I started loosing my self pride,self esteem , self worth, and most painfully i lost a pregnancy
(Miscarriage) I almost lost my life in the process then I realised how serious and abnormal it really was.

I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don’t know my story,I guess that’s why they are ignorant. I was 20yrs old and very naïve to the world when I got married .“ They said I married for money“ LOL.

I was married to a corporate guy,who had a 9_5 job in a bank, Lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe..
So do the maths! . I married for love. I did a traditional wedding. A white wedding and a court wedding.

So that’s how much I wanted to be married forever. For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the carmels back was during a heated argument he threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on
d wall. I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left
my marriage. Am not saying this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believes. I am not also saying this to discourage
people from falling in love because its a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share
and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real.”

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